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FRIENDSHIP MOVIES.

Title Year Main Actors Description


An Intimate Friendship 2000 Lisel. M Gorell,
Stacy Marr,
Rini Starkey,
Tim McMillan,
Kerry Leigh LePage. A family of friends is forever changed when two of the friends realize that their love for one another goes beyond the confines of their conventional relationship.


An Officer And
A Gentleman 1998 Richard Gere,
Debra Winger,
Louis Gossett Jr,
David Keith Loser/loner Zach Mayo enlists in the Navy because he wants to inject a little direction into his wayward life. During his 13-week boot camp, he gets taught a lot of lessons of discipline, friendship and ultimately, love, as he starts off as a son trying to escape his father's past, and ends up as an officer and a gentleman.


Au Revoir Les Enfants 1987 Gaspard Manesse,
Raphael Fejto. An autobiographical account of a boy's first friendship - and his discovery of the real world. Set in a Catholic boarding school during the German occupation of France, this is the powerful story of Julien Quentin, a sensitive, headstrong 12-year-old boy who befriends the new student in his class. The boy - Jean Bonnet - sees differently than the others. But Julien is intrigued and the two begin a shaky friendship. One day, by accident, Julien learns of a secret that will change the young boys' lives forever.


Beaches 1988 Bette Midler,
Barbara Hershey A thirty-year friendship begins when two little girls meet on the beach in Atlantic City. Bette Midler plays a diva not unlike her real-life persona, Barbara Hershey a lawyer stricken with a fatal disease. Have a hanky on hand for when Bette sings Wind Beneath My Wings.


Boys On The Side 1995 Whoopi Goldberg,
Drew Barrymore,
Mary Louise Parker Here's a different kind of road movie--the adventurers are women, and no ordinary women at that. Whoopi Goldberg plays a lesbian, Mary-Louise Parker's character has AIDS and Drew Barrymore's, surprise, surprise--is running from her past. In spite of their differences, they form a powerful supportive bond during their entertaining journey.


Brokedown Palace 1999 Claire Danes,
Kate Beckinsale,
Bill Pullman Two best friends' dream vacation becomes a nightmare. Each falls for the same mysterious man, and in one instant their lives are changed forever. In a foreign land, they must prove their innocence before it's too late. A tale of self-discovery and the ultimate sacrifice for a friend.


Circle Of Friends 1994 Minnie Driver,
Colin Firth,
Alan Cumming,
Saffron Burrows A story about the lives, loves and betrayals of three Irish girls, Bennie, Eve and Nan during their freshman year at Trinity College in Dublin. An enchanting movie that introduced us to Minnie Driver, Colin Firth, Alan Cumming and Saffron Burrows, with Chris O'Donnell thrown in for good measure.


Clueless 1995 Alicia Silverstone,
Stacey Dash,
Brittany Murphy Amy Heckerling directed this zany comedy featuring Alicia Silverstone, Stacey Dash and Brittany Murphy as self-absorbed, fashion obsessed teens in Southern California. Though jealousy over guys nearly pulls them apart, friendship wins out, as does romance with just the right guy for each girl.


Corrina, Corrina 1994 Whoopi Goldberg,
Ray Liotta,
Tina Majorino. Corrina, Corrina stars Whoopi Goldberg as a maid hired to tend to the daughter of a grieving man (Ray Liotta) whose wife has just died suddenly. Tina Majorino plays the daughter, who is so overwhelmed by the loss of her mother that she stops speaking. After a time both daughter and father bond with the new woman in their lives, a situation complicated by racism in this 1950's setting.


Crimes Of The Heart 1986 Diane Keaton,
Jessica Lange,
Sissy Spacek,
Tess Harper. A funny, poignant drama about three southern sisters who are drawn together again after the youngest attempts to murder her abusive husband.


Enchanted April 1991 Miranda Richardson,
Joan Plowright,
Polly Walker. A charming tale of four women who find Romance, hope and, ultimately, liberation during a month's holiday in an Italian villa overlooking the sea.


Entre Nous 1983 Miou,
Isabelle Huppert. Director Diane Kurys based this critically acclaimed French drama on her mother's long-lasting friendship with a woman that was so strong, it became threatening to their ineffectual husbands.


First Wives Club 1996 Bette Midler,
Goldie Hawn,
Diane Keaton Jimmy Middle-aged men should think twice about dumping their wives for younger women--especially if the women take Ivana Trump's advice, "don't get mad, get everything." Bette Midler, Goldie Hawn and Diane Keaton play friends since college who join forces to get hilarious revenge on their respective exes.


Frat Daze 2000 Frat Daze is a shocking tell-all feature length movie about friends that possess a burning desire to pledge a glorified fraternity . all inspired by actual events! Our movie has been seen and enjoyed by college students all over. Now on home video, everybody (many more students, parents, and curiosity seekers) will get a true and very rare glance into the private world of Fraternity Pledging and Hazing . Secrets Exposed!


Fried Green Tomatoes 1991 Kathy Bates,
Jessica Tandy,
Mary Louise Parker,
Mary Stuart Masterson. A sentimental portrait about two friendships between women, one in the present, one in 1920's and 30's Alabama. Kathy Bates and Jessica Tandy play the modern friends who meet at Tandy's retirement home. Mary Stuart Masterson and Mary-Louise Parker are the spunky friends from the past whose friendship survives an abusive husband, a seriously injured child and a murder trial.


Frog And Wombat 1998 Ronny Cox,
Lindsay Wagner,
Katie Stuart,
Emily Lipoma. Alli (code name "Frog") is convinced that her new principal (Ronny Cox) is up to no good and she's going to prove it! When her best friend, Jane (code name "Wombat") and her mother (Lindsay Wagner) reject this idea, Frog decides to collect the evidence and crack the case. Frog, Wombat, and their friends encounter comedy and conflict as they set out to prove Frog's suspicion. Ultimately their bravery and conviction prove that young girls can and should believe in their instincts.


Gas Food Lodging 1992 Brooke Adams,
Ione Sky,
Fairuza Balk,
James Brolin,
Robert Knepper Nora lives with her two teenaged daughters, Trudi and Shade, in a trailer park in the desert in New Mexico. Shade is preoccupied with finding a husband for her mother, but also holds her accountable for her father's leaving. Trudi, the older daughter, has an impossible relationship with Nora. The film examines the lives of these three women, their relationships with each other and with their lovers, and how they cope with the disadvantages life has dealt to them.


Homeward Bound ? Robert Hays,
Kim Greist,
Veronica Lauren,
Kevin Chevalia,
Benj Thall. Short but sweet - that's the basic summary of Bruce Broughton's score for Homeward Bound, an enjoyable Disney-made shaggy dog story about three intrepid family pets who journey across the vast unknown, facing danger at every turn, as they strive to be re-united with their pint-sized owners.


How To Make
An American Quilt 1995 Winona Ryder Winona Ryder plays an aimless young woman who leaves her fiancé behind to spend the summer with her grandmother and great-aunt. As she listens to the stories of life and love told by the members of their quilting circle, she gains a new perspective on life.


Inside Moves 1980 John Savage,
David Morse,
Diana Scarwid,
Amy Wright. Young stars and veteran actors combine to interpret a poignant and humorous tale about regulars at Max's Bar.


Jerry Maguire 1996 Tom Cruise,
Cuba Gooding Jr.,
Renee Zellweger. Tom Cruise shines in this superb romantic Comedy about a sports agent who, in a crises of morals, comes close to losing everything. Keeping him afloat is the brilliant and beautiful Zelwegger, and his only remaining client Cuba Goodwin Jr.. The story is not overly melodramatic but quaint and realistic. Jerry Maguire is a definite crowd pleaser, the chemistry between the romantic leads is great and Cuba adds lots of laughs and fun.


Leaving Normal 1992 Christine Lahti, Meg Tilly Leaving Normal is a heartwarming story of how one young woman finally finds her place in life and helps others to do the same.


Mighty 1998 Gillian Anderson,
Meat Loaf,
Sharon Stone,
Gena Rowlands Touching story of a young physically challenged boy with a taste for adventure stories who befriends his physically strong but mentally challenged neighbor so that they may act out fantastic adventures.


My Best Friends Wedding 1997 Julia Roberts,
Rupert Everett,
Cameron Diaz,
Dermot Mulroney. Roberts dazzles as commitment-shy Julianne Potter, who suddenly realises she's in love with her best friend Michael (Mulroney). There.s just one catch&he.s about to marry someone else. Now she has to win him back, And with just 4 days, the help of resourceful boss (Everett) and the benefits of an extremely devious mind, Jules will do anything to get her man&.except tell him the honest truth!


Mystic Pizza 1988 Julia Roberts,
Annabeth Gish In the small Connecticut coast town of Mystic, three young pizza parlor waitresses ponder love, marriage, the future and secret pizza recipe ingredients. Featuring charming but honest performances by Annabeth Gish, Lili Taylor and Julia Roberts in her breakthrough role.


Now and Then 1996 Christina Ricci,
Melanie Griffith,
Demi Moore,
Rosie O'Donnell,
Thora Birch It's all for one and one for all in this heartwarming comedy about the childhood mischief of four best friends who reunite after twenty years.
Roberta, Teeny, Samantha, and chrissy have been busy growing up, but they always remembered the promise they made to be there for each other. Now they're together again to relive the greatest summer of their lives.


Oliver And Lopez 1998 The heartwarming story of two funky cool guys, their friendship, hardships they endure, and their struggles with common problems related to adolescence, presented a in not-so-common manner. This movie brings about many different feelings; It will make you laugh in some parts, cry in others. Overall, it is a funny, touching, beautiful story of a bizarre friendship bound to keep you on the edge of your seat throughout the entire film.


Open Return 2000 Lisa Maher,
George Sereika,
Seth Walther,
Kate Ross, Gabby escapes California for her New Jersey hometown. It's not what she expected. Her best friend Keith can't deal with his bedridden Dad or his job at a nursing facility. Her ex-beau Jon is trying desperately to overcome his latest painter's block while salvaging his relationship with Suzy, Gabby's least favorite person. Just when Gabby's family have decided that their prodigal daughter is more exasperating than they remember, her high school crush Jenna arrives on the scene. Gabby begins to discover that escape is impossible. Retreat, however, can be a pretty good time.


Passion Fish 1992 Mary McDonnell,
Alfre Woodarde Mary McDonnell and Alfre Woodard star in John Sayles' offbeat drama about the friendship that develops between a paralyzed actress and the caretaker who helps to put her life back together.


Places In The Heart 1984 Sally Field,
John Malkovich,
Danny Glover,
Ed Harris. A woman and her two children struggle to survive in a small town in Texas during the Depression.


Rain Man 1988 Tom Cruise,
Dustin Hoffman,
Valeria Golino,
Jerry Molden. After their father dies, a smooth-talking businessman is reunited with his autistic older brother to whose caretakers his father left a fortune. Needing the money himself, he kidnaps him for a rocky cross-country drive only to discover the void his brother had filled in his empty childhood.


Romy And Michele's
High School Reunion 1995 Lisa Kudrow,
Mira Sorvino At their 10 year high school reunion, there's only one way for best friends Romy and Michele to show their classmates how successful they've become. Lie!


Scent Of A Woman 1992 Al Pacino,
Chris O.Donnell,
Gabriellr Anwar,
James Rebhorn. Hoping to earn some extra money, a relatively underprivileged prep school student agrees to look after a cantankerous, blind, retired lieutenant Colonel during his holiday. Thrown off guard by his charge's bullying style, the student's in for even more surprises when the two take off for a wild weekend in New York City.


Secret Garden 1993 Maggie Smith,
Kate Maberly,
Heydon Prowse,
Andrew Knott. Frances Hodgson Burnett's timeless children's tale of about the magical effect of a long-forgotten garden on the lives of three lonely children. Executive-produced by Francis Ford Coppola and rendered with lyrical, polished flair by Polish emigre Holland.


Shot Through The Heart 2000 Linus Roache,
Vincent Perez A heartrending movie, based on a true story about a pair of best friends in the fomer Yoguslav nation, who are torn by the inevitable circumstances of war. The bond between the two life long friends illustrates the depth of the friendship, and how emotionally unbearable life is when having to make the choice between best friend and nation.


Stand By Me 1994 Poon Fong Fong Four frustrated teenage girls, forseeing no end to their emotional problems, form a suicide pact. But a chance meeting with an older, wiser stranger leads to a solid friendship that makes each reconsider her blessings.


Steel Magnolias 1989 Dolly Parton,
Julia Roberts,
Sally Field,
Shirley MacLaine. In a small Louisiana town, Dolly Parton runs the local beauty parlor, which serves as the gathering point for a varied yet loyal group of women friends. Pass the tissues, please!


Terms Of Endearment 1983 Shirley MacLaine,
Debra Winger,
Jack Nickolson,
Danny De Vito. A deeply observed drama about the intimate relationship between a mother and daughter, based on the novel by Larry McMurtry


The Colour Purple 1985 Whoopi Goldberg,
Margaret Avery,
Danny Glover,
Oprah Winfrey,
Adolf Caesar. A masterful adaptation of Alice Walker's Pulitzer Prize winning novel about a southern black girl's rise from tragedy to personal triumph through the course of her lifetime.


Toy Story & Toy Story 2 1995, 2000 Tom Hanks,
Tim Allen Woody is Andy's favourite toy, an old cowboy doll with a head full of stuffing and a heart of gold. But one fateful birthday sees the arrival of Buzz Lightyear, Space Ranger and potential rival for the hallowed position of Favourite Toy. Both movies tell simple, yet powerfully real tales. Expressed with extraordinary care and skill in animation, the films capture the importance and fragility of true friendship with eye-popping visuals, spirited laughs and lovable characters.


Thelma And Louise 1991 Susan Sarandon,
Geena Davis. Susan Sarandon's a waitress with a traumatic history, Geena Davis an unappreciated housewife. When their weekend camping getaway goes badly wrong, they find themselves fleeing the law yet discovering real freedom. Anyone else think they ought to make a video game where women get to shoot at semi trucks?


Waiting To Exhale 1995 Whitney Houston,
Angela Bassett,
Loretta Devine,
Lela Rochon. Girlfriends Whitney Houston, Angela Bassett , Loretta Devine and Lela Rochon form a sisters' support system as they struggle to gain love and respect from the men in their lives. The irresistible soundtrack features Houston's hit, Exhale (Shoop Shoop).


Wayne's World 1992 Mike Myers,
Dana Carvey. Two slacker friends try to promote their public-access cable show. "Party on - excellent!"


Whales Of August 1987 Lillian Gish,
Bette Davis,
Ann Sothern,
Vincent Price. Set on a Maine island, two sisters are locked in a mutual dependency which threatens to unravel. Their daily routines are interrupted by their life-long friend Tisha, the questionable attentions of the mysterious Mr. Maranov, and Joshua Brackett, a crusty handyman.

Friendship Quotes: Proverbs

"The death of a friend is equivalent to the loss of a limb."
- German Proverb

"Life without a friend is like death without a witness."
- Spanish Proverb

"The best mirror is an old friend."

"May there always be work for your hands to do, may your purse always hold a coin or two. May the sun always shine on your windowpane, may a rainbow be certain to follow each rain. May the hand of a friend always be near you, may God fill your heart with gladness to cheer you."
- Irish Blessing

"A cheerful friend is like asunny day spreading brightness all around."
- John Lubcock ( English Astronomer )

"THERE ARE MANY TYPES OF SHIPS. THERE ARE WOODEN SHIPS ,PLASTIC SHIPS, AND METAL SHIPS. BUT THE BEST AND MOST IMPORTAINT TYPES OF SHIPS ARE FRIENDSHIPS."
- OLD IRISH QUOTE (SENT BY -ROBERT J. BADAR JR.)

"The only unsinkable ship is FRIENDSHIP."
-Sent in by Jeff Sczpanski

" A friend is one to whom one may pour out all the contents of one's heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away."
- Arabian Proverb

"It is better to be in chains with friends , than to be in a garden with strangers."
-Persian Proverb -Sent in by ShawnBooks and friends should be few but good."

"A friend in need is a friend indeed."
- Latin Proverb

"A good friend is my nearest relation."

"A hedge between keeps friendship green."

"God defend me from my friends; from my enemies I can defend myself."

"Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes."

"Love is blind. Friendship tries not to notice."
-Sent in by Angela Kendrick

"The best of friends must part."

"Do not use a hatchet to remove a fly from your friend's forehead."
- Chinese Proverb, (sent by Julio Fung)

"To have a friend, be a frie

Monday, March 16, 2009

friendship hugggggggggggggg,

Pass this hug to all of
your friends and back
to me, see how many
you get back! !

1-5 HUGS....You r on
someones mind!

5-10 HUGS...Someone
likes you!

10-15 HUGS..Someone
wants to be with you!

15-20 HUGS..WOW! you
are really loved by alot"

Send This To All Ur Friends,
And Me If I Am 1.
If U Get 7 Back U R Loved

1-3 u r a bad friend

Saturday, March 14, 2009

moreeeeeeeeee

You're...
My Friend,
my companion,
through good times and bad
my friend, my buddy,
through happy and sad,
beside me you stand,
beside me you walk,
you're there to listen,
you're there to talk,
with happiness, with smiles,
with pain and tears,
I know you'll be there,
throughout the years!

True friendship is like sound health, the value of it is seldom known until it is lost."
- Charles Caleb Colton


"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
- Anon


"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend."If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't jump with them, I would be at the bottom to catch them."
- Anon


"Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't say."
- Anon


"We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere."
-Tim McGraw


"Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart."
- Anon

"Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher."

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it is a comfort to go hand in hand." ~Emily Kimbrough~

"People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within." ~Elizabeth Kubler-Ross~

If you have one true friend, you have more than your share. ~Thomas Fuller~

“When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.”

"Together forever, never apart. Maybe in distance, but never in heart.”

"Promise you won't forget me, because if I thought you would, I'd never leave."
~Winnie the Pooh~

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
~Walter Winchell~

If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I would not follow, I would be at the bottom to catch them when they fall.
~Source Unknown~

"If I had one gift that I could give you, my friend, it would be the ability to see yourself as others see you, because only then would you know how extremely special you are."
~B.A. Billingsly~

"A true friend is someone who knows there's something wrong even when you have the biggest smile on your face."


- Albert Camus

more friendship quotesss

"Just to prove i was right that it's harder to be friends than lovers and you shouldn't try and mix the two, cause if you do and then you're still unhappy, then you know that the problem is you."
- Liz Phair

"If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend."
- Stone Temple Pilots

"Mother my friends are no longer my friends
And the games we once played have no meaning
I've gone serious and shy and they can't figure why
So they've left me to my own daydreaming."
- Suzanne Vega

"And the days went by like paper in the wind. Everything changed, then changed again. It's hard to find a friend. It's hard to find a friend."
- Tom Petty

"I'll lean on you and you lean on me and we'll be okay."
- Dave Matthews Band

"You were the one who made things different, you were the one who took me in. You were the one thing I could count on, above all, you were my friend."
- Tom Petty

"When I'm with you I feel like I could die and that would be alright, alright."
- Third Eye Blind

"Lean on me, when you're not strong, and I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on, for it won't be long, 'til I'm going to need somebody to lean on."
- "Lean On Me"

"In good times, in bad times I'll be on your side forever more, that's what friends are for."
- "That's what friends are for"

"I think about you all the time, but I don't need the same."
- Goo Goo Dolls

"Without you, there'd be no sun in my sky, there would be no love in my life, there'd be no world left of me."
- Leann Rimes

"Don't be dismayed at goodbyes. A farewell is before you can meet again. And meeting again after a moment or a lifetime is certain for those who are friends."
- Richard Bach

bestttttttttt friendship quotes

"Just to prove i was right that it's harder to be friends than lovers and you shouldn't try and mix the two, cause if you do and then you're still unhappy, then you know that the problem is you."
- Liz Phair

"If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend."
- Stone Temple Pilots

"Mother my friends are no longer my friends
And the games we once played have no meaning
I've gone serious and shy and they can't figure why
So they've left me to my own daydreaming."
- Suzanne Vega

"And the days went by like paper in the wind. Everything changed, then changed again. It's hard to find a friend. It's hard to find a friend."
- Tom Petty

"I'll lean on you and you lean on me and we'll be okay."
- Dave Matthews Band

"You were the one who made things different, you were the one who took me in. You were the one thing I could count on, above all, you were my friend."
- Tom Petty

"When I'm with you I feel like I could die and that would be alright, alright."
- Third Eye Blind

"Lean on me, when you're not strong, and I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on, for it won't be long, 'til I'm going to need somebody to lean on."
- "Lean On Me"

"In good times, in bad times I'll be on your side forever more, that's what friends are for."
- "That's what friends are for"

"I think about you all the time, but I don't need the same."
- Goo Goo Dolls

"Without you, there'd be no sun in my sky, there would be no love in my life, there'd be no world left of me."
- Leann Rimes

"Don't be dismayed at goodbyes. A farewell is before you can meet again. And meeting again after a moment or a lifetime is certain for those who are friends."
- Richard Bach
"Just to prove i was right that it's harder to be friends than lovers and you shouldn't try and mix the two, cause if you do and then you're still unhappy, then you know that the problem is you."
- Liz Phair

"If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend."
- Stone Temple Pilots

"Mother my friends are no longer my friends
And the games we once played have no meaning
I've gone serious and shy and they can't figure why
So they've left me to my own daydreaming."
- Suzanne Vega

"And the days went by like paper in the wind. Everything changed, then changed again. It's hard to find a friend. It's hard to find a friend."
- Tom Petty

"I'll lean on you and you lean on me and we'll be okay."
- Dave Matthews Band

"You were the one who made things different, you were the one who took me in. You were the one thing I could count on, above all, you were my friend."
- Tom Petty

"When I'm with you I feel like I could die and that would be alright, alright."
- Third Eye Blind

"Lean on me, when you're not strong, and I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on, for it won't be long, 'til I'm going to need somebody to lean on."
- "Lean On Me"

"In good times, in bad times I'll be on your side forever more, that's what friends are for."
- "That's what friends are for"

"I think about you all the time, but I don't need the same."
- Goo Goo Dolls

"Without you, there'd be no sun in my sky, there would be no love in my life, there'd be no world left of me."
- Leann Rimes

"Don't be dismayed at goodbyes. A farewell is before you can meet again. And meeting again after a moment or a lifetime is certain for those who are friends."
- Richard Bach



true friends

A true friend never walks away
A true will always stay
A true friend looks out for you

A true friend will guard your secrets
Like a precious gift
A true friend is there for you
To give you a helpful lift

A true friend tries to make you smile
Tries to replace that frown
They may not always succeed
But they rarely let you down

These arms for you are open
This heart for you does care
And when I think you need me
I'll try to always be there

I'll listen to your fears
I promise not to laugh
Comfort your falling tears
I'll make this friendship last

I'll keep you near to my heart
I'll always hold you dear
Even when we're miles apart
Even when you're here

I hope I am to you
Everything you are to me
For the friendship we have
Is a special one indeed.

there is that friendsssssssss

There is that friend
that is so much a part of you, that you feel alone just thinking about the thought of her not being there.

There is that friendship
that has so much that it is based on that nothing could ever dissolve or even threaten it.

There is that friend
with whom you share so much history that one fight or misunderstanding rolls off nearly instantaneously,
because one issue is so insignificant, and could never come close to shattering the bond.

There is that friendship
that cannot always be explained, but only understood and cherished by the two people that share it.

There is that friend
that mean so much to you, that you honestly believe you would stop studying for a final exam, break a date with your crush of five years, or risk being grounded just so you could be there to lend a shoulder to cry on, offer a hug, or spend three hours just sitting with her if that would make it at all better.

There is that friendship
that has lasted through ten years of your life, and is still growing.

There is that friend
who you can talk to about something that happened when you were eight years old, and she can relive that moment so vividly along with you..

There is that friend
that knows you as well as you know yourself, and finds it special that you know her just as well.

There is that friend
who can make you smile through your tears, or cry out of happiness.

There is that friend
who is always there for you, and just realizing that she would be there is more than enough to make it better.

There is that friend
who cares about clearing away your tears no less if you are crying over absolutely nothing or over something she may have done to hurt you.

I have one friend like that, and it is that friend that will always occupy a precious part of my heart.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

friendship is what we cant imagine

A friend is a person capable of loving irrespective of whether he is being loved or not. Friendship can exist between the same sex: man-man, woman-woman, or opposite sex: man-woman. It transcends age and could subsist between even an old man and a small boy. Human beings also establish friendships with their pet animals such as cats, dogs, horses, doves and parrots. Friendship can also be felt in familial relationships between father and son, mother and daughter, husband and wife, brother and sister, elder brother and younger brother. Yet, more than friendship, love is the binding force in familial relationships. In a deeper sense, love is below friendship because it is an above/below relation, one of hierarchy and condition. It is implied, then, that friendship is freedom plus equality. It involves choice and volition. The concept of friendship needs exploration because often a man is known by the company he keeps; knowing the company helps one to know oneself and develop his personality to the fullest. Each of our friends mirrors a rejected or acknowledged trait in us. They happen to be our friends because it is ourselves in different forms, and a unified vision of them constitutes to the sameness of our identity.

Generally, friendship exists for three reasons: a) virtue b) usefulness c) pleasure. When virtue is the reason, friendship exists for the sake of friendship; where both like each other and cherish each other for some creditable values in the other’s personality. You wish to be the friend of that person for the sheer personality that he/she has. It has a magic in itself. It attracts you. And it is mutual. You know that you would even die to swear your friendship for that person. But you also know that the other would make you live than die for him/her. It is somewhat platonic in concept inasmuch as the other may not be/need not be all that intelligent and good looking, useful or capable of giving pleasure.

A friendship of the second kind is formed for the utilitarian value of it. How useful so and so is to me? What can I benefit from him? Can I use his car? Will he use his reputation and influence to fetch me a good job? Will he lend me money in need? Thus a person may ask and maintains relationship for practical, professional, and political reasons. I remember the friendship I made with two others on a train journey from Mumbai to Chennai. It was extremely useful for killing time during the journey. Further, all of us had to go to the bus-stand to continue our onward travel. Therefore we took an auto-rickshaw till the bus-stand and shared the money. But then, once we boarded our buses to our destinations, we were looking forward to meet our people at the hometown. That is the quality of this friendship; it is useful but lasts so long as the need for utility persists. Once we do away with the utility-need the friendship eventually dies. It holds good only for that moment and need.

Friendship of the third kind is formed essentially on account of the pleasure the relationship is capable of giving. He is a joker. The moment he enters, you forget all your worries. You cannot but wonder what new joke he has got up in his sleeve to make you roar into laughter. And he never disappoints you that way. She is cute, intelligent and charming. The very notion that she is your friend makes you feel proud. That she walks, talks and takes tea with you is enough. You are on cloud nine. The point rests here: How good is he/she in giving me pleasure--physically, emotionally, mentally and materialistically?

Now to the question: Which of the three is good? It appears that type A is good, but it is not as useful or joyful as the other types. Type B is good, yet it falls short of longevity and quality. Type C too is good, but how long one enjoys only pleasure in life? How many jokes can a person take in a day? And does it give the same pleasure as it gave to him in the beginning? Doesn’t he reach a saturation point, a mental and emotional exhaustion? Where he would rather prefer to be left alone to himself? Would prefer to shed a tear inside rather than go on laughing at the follies of the world?

In close observation, it would be revealed that all these type differences are not watertight compartments. They overlap with each other. A relationship started on the basis of usefulness may also get elevated to the status of virtue in due course. Similarly a virtuous friendship also could soon impart usefulness and pleasure. It would be an ideal package to have all the three together. But you see my friend, how difficult it is to form relationships?

Virtue-based relationships are formed mostly during childhood, schooldays. Sometimes later, at college days, when we live in a state of blissful ignorance, or rather, fool’s paradise. But once one tastes the coldness of reality and learns to conduct oneself a successful professional, the circumstance demands one to have friendships on the basis of usefulness/pleasure. Be it sharing a cigarette or going for a picnic or deciding to invest in the same company shares together. Though I said earlier that it is capable of developing a virtue out of it in due course, mind you, it is not a virtue in itself. Virtue-based friendship is fantastic for this reason: it lasts till the end of this universe! Though it is disheartening to realise that most of the virtue-based relationships is formed during our young, immature (ironically because we were thinking at that time that we were the most matured of the lot!), developing stage--the mind then was remarkably uninhibited and the ears listened without prejudice and the tongues twisted smoothly to the words that flew out from the bottoms of hearts--it is gladdening to know that value-based friendships are also formed in a professional/political/materialistic milieu. Often less in number, it is formed, surprisingly, in a short span and lasts till eternity! That telepathic, intuitive Richard Bachian understanding works out here: “You know your friend in a moment, than your acquaintances in a life time.”

So far so good about friends and friendships. . . All of a sudden, do I sound cynical a bit? Perhaps (my favourite word in defining relationships) yes! But why?

Frederick Neitzsche feels that the right kind of friendship occurs only when we realise the enemy within and without. Hence when Aristotle said, “O friends, there are no enemies,” Neitzsche in his very characteristic way retorted by saying, “O enemies, there are no enemies.” While Aristotle implied that friends are really enemies in disguise, Neitzsche conjectured to the contrary that enemies are friends in disguise! He was contemptuous of our tendency to give only to our friends. But not to our enemies. The reader should not confuse this notion with the Christian doctrine of ‘love thy neighbours’ or ‘if a person slaps on your cheek, show him the other’ stuff, since for Neitzsche, “God is dead” (an interesting but irrelevant point here, hence I defer a meandering discussion). All that Neitzsche wants to convey is this: while one is so generous in giving to his friends, he must also learn how to give to his enemies. Failing which, for him, there could be no friendship at all.

Taking cues from Nietzsche we should not only concede the enemy in the friend but also recognise in advance so that we may not be caught unawares and be saved of increased blood-pressure levels and doctor bills. Our best friend is endowed with the capability of becoming our worst enemy. It is always for sure. A stranger can be an enemy but not worst enemy. Remember Brutus, for instance. We always say that Caesar was so strong that he would not have died even if millions of daggers were to pierce him but for the one dagger of betrayal that penetrated his heart and took away his last breath. That others were interested in the death of Caesar was of no matter to the mighty emperor, but his bosom friend saw a point in it made him give up all his hope for survival. If my death would benefit Brutus, so be it, thought Caesar and died of heart-break, not of haemorrhage, we may categorically conclude. Nevertheless, this does not always happen in Shakespearean dramas and present Hindi movies, but in reality too. A person who had this soul-bending/mending experience wisely knows that love is just an absence of hate as day is just an absence of night. In the words of Jaques Derrida:
if you want a friend, you must wage war on him, and capable of it, capable of having a ‘best enemy.’ To be capable of this friendship, to be able to honour in the friend the enemy he can become, is a sign of freedom. Freedom itself. Now this is a freedom that neither tyrants not slaves know.”(1997: 282).
One should be capable of respecting the enemy, of honouring what one does not love. Incapable of such a respect, incapable of the freedom entailed by that respect, one could never have either friends or enemies as such. “Only a free and respectful consciousness could ever attain to this as such, this phenomenal essence of the friend or enemy, as well as of the couple they form (ibid.).”

In conclusion, recognition of enmity even when friendship is alive and kicking can give a cosmic and comprehensive view of a relationship resulting in its intensified quality and enhanced exchange of friendly love. But leaving this aspect of friendship in the dark, will soon render a relationship arbitrary and leaves its partners in a quandary with rankling fear for continuity/discontinuity. That’s why, when we preserve the fond memories of our friends in the attics, refrigerators and pickle bottles of our minds and hearts, let’s open those wicket-gates of our souls in esteem of our enemies too! And, from now on, we shall vow together and say: Welcome enemies and happy stay friends!

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Best friends being there for you









they are there for you,
which you need them.
when you cry,
they wipe the tears away.
when you fight,
they have your back.
when you jump off the bridge,
they jump after you to dave you.
that is what i call a
BESTFRIEND

shayariiiiiii

zindagi lambi hai dost banate rahiya
dil mile na mile haath milate rahiye
taj na banana bahut costly padega
par har gali mein mumtaj banae rahiye

mil jati hai kitno ko khushi
mit jati hai kitno ke gam msg isliye bhejte hai hum
taki dur ho kar ke bhi apni dosti na ho kum

kanjusi ka jab oskar diya gaya
tumhara naam sabse pehle ayega
galti se sms mat karna warna
oscar koi aur le jayega

pyar karne ka andaz ana chahiye
yaad karne ke liye mithi yaad ani chahiye
ap roz cal karo na karo
par roz sms ana chahiye

ab jab tum angdai lete hodum hamara nikal jata hai
ay zalim deoderant kitne mein ata hai
or
deoderant lagane mein tumhara kya jata hai

laila ne majnu se kaha
laila ne majnu se kaha
majnu ja mungphali kha
or muh dho ke aa

ay dost teri dosti ke liye duniya chod denge hum
teri taraf aye tufan ko maad denge hum
lekin tune jo saath choda,kasan se
teri hadiya todh denge hum

lab khamosh hoti hai jab tum samne ate ho
dil dhadakta hai jab nijah milate ho
sans rukhti hai jab muskurate ho
bhut ho kya itna kyo darate ho

ek ladka ladki ! Raat mein ! Andhere main!ah
jhadi ke piche!Ah! Daba daba ke! Ah!
chus chus ke!Ah! Aam kha rahe the!…AHA

neend mughe raat bhar ati hai kum
sayad macharo ko mil gaya unka sanam

aj asman mein tare chamak rahe hai
aj asman mein tare chamak rahe hai
jaise kal chamak rahe the

khuda kare tera mobile kho jaye
mile mughe aur mera ho jaye
karu sms ladkiya ko naam tera ai
marr pade tughe aur kalega mera thanda ho jaye

ahat si koi aye to lagta hai ki tum ho
parda laher ta hai to lagta tum ho
ab tum hi batao ki kya tum koi bhoot se kam ho

friendship is what is here


A friend like you is hard to come by,
you’re so dear as you’re always there for me to say hi!
I thank you, as you made your full heart open,
and I pray that our friendship never be broken.
Two cords, they say, are better than one
you and I, and me and you, and it is done!

FRIENDS IMPRESS TO ALL

English - I love you.
arabic - ahebk

Turkish- Seni Seviyorum

Kurtish- Az ta hazdıkım

Assamese -moi tumak bhal pau

Bengali - Aami Tumaake Bhaalo Baashi

Polish - Ja Kocham Ciebie

French - Je T'aime

Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte Hai

Czech - Miluji Te

Slovakian - Lu'Bim Ta

Italian - Ti Amo

Ukrainian - Ya Tebe Kahayu

German - Ich Libe Dich

Chinese - Wo Ai Ni

Greek - S'agapo

Hawaian - Aloha Wau Ia Oi

Lithuianian - Tav Myliu

Korean - Sa Rang Hae Yo

Japanese - Ai Shi Te Ru

Romanian - Te Ubsec

Bosnian - Volim Te

Albanian - Te Dua

Filipino - Mahal Kita

Spanish - Te Amo

Bulgarian - Obicham te


this is......I Love You In 24 Different Languages!
Now send this to Your Love One,
which can include ME And Are Your True Friends!

intro

Some of the best moments in life:-
Lying in bed listening to the rain outside…
Thinking about the person you love…
A long drive on a calm road…
Finding money in your old jeans just when you need it…
Giggling over silly jokes…
Holding hands with a friend…
Getting a hug from someone who loves u…
The moment your eyes fill with tears after a big laugh…
Wishing you these moments in your life always..!
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